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Saturday, November 23, 2013

Taking a little break from blogging

Happy Thanksgiving!

In the spirit of the season I've decided to take a break from blogging. I think it was Helene who asked that I say something before stopping writing here and she's right that it's a good idea.

Will I be back? I'm not sure right now, to be honest. But I also won't say 'never'.

So in case I don't get the chance I'd like to wish you all a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!

Blessings upon you all!

Love, Megan

Tuesday, October 22, 2013

Welcome Sarah & Madeline!!!

On October 18, 2013 my little girl Sarah Michelle decided to join our family! She's a big girl at 7lbs 6oz, 21" tall and, so far, it looks like she will have sandy blonde hair like her mom! And in the closest-birthday-in-the-family contest we have a winner with Cydne's little girl Madeline who joined us the very next day, October 19th! She's got dark brown hair and is a healthy 6lbs 14oz, 19" tall and Cyd came though it all just fine! She had a long labor (about 12 hours) but did really great! We're both trading off on the baby duties at night so each of us can get at least 6 hours sleep in a row and that really helps!!!

Steve was home for the births and he stayed the weekend but has had to go back to work now.

Sorry I haven't been on here for a while but I have had other things going on and I've also had some very mean hate mail that just had me not feeling so good about posting too much anymore.

I just need to clarify a couple things here for the haters:

1. I NEVER ask anyone for money, gifts, or whatever aside from asking people to give to real charities. It's also a little scary and sometimes creepy if someone goes all Private Detective and learns where we live and sends me things. Please don't do that!

2. I don't recruit people. Evangelism is not my thing and I am not a very good Christian and would not want to be responsible for leading anyone into the faith. That's not something I feel called to do.

3. YES!! I am asking people to accept poly!!! So long as it is a free choice between consenting adults then what business is it of anyone else's? Is it too much to ask for the same rights as gays have? Me personally I am not even asking for legal marriage, just the right to be left alone.

4. I am not perfect. I am not a role model. I sometimes screw up as a mom and I sometimes screw up as a wife and a friend.

5. I have a bad memory. I swear some of you know more details about me than I do sometimes! Don't get wrong, I appreciate that some people follow this blog and that's really sweet, but it's not like a Bible to me or anything. I write down what is on my mind at the time and I go on. Sometimes I change my mind on things and sometimes I get new information on stuff I've written about and I change what I say about it. If you're wrong about something and someone corrects you do you keep saying the same stuff just to be consistent? I don't.

'Nuff said.

Moving on....

Christie is working again and is traveling a lot. She wanted a break from having babies and figured she should work. Macy is trying again for a 2nd baby and we're all very happy for her about this choice! She has had a long time to heal from losing Rebecca and is ready to try again.

Hannah has been accepted to a private college and will start attending in the spring. We're VERY happy for her and hope she really enjoys school! She will be staying at the school and this will be a big deal for her since it is the first time she will be away from home and family in her whole life!

I'm down to about 70 chickens now. The egg business went way down on me and I had to give up a lot of my hens to the butcher in town. It's a business, I know, but it's hard not to love them all and miss them.

We had our first snow already. Not too bad where we live but South Dakota got hit really bad and a lot of ranchers lost an awful lot of cattle. I keep hearing maybe as many as 100,000 cattle died. It's really serious and some ranchers are asking people to donate cattle to help them get their herds back up. We don't have the cattle to spare since we sold off most of them a while back and started running bison. Upside of bison is they don't care about blizzards.

The park closure at Yellowstone gave us a problem when National Park Service police tried to 'close' part of our ranch. They ended up having to check their maps and the signs on their own fences to realize that our land is not their land. Those people really are (forgive me) assholes. I hope they stay in the park after this. Honestly, the way they acted with us gave me a bad feeling about the park. I used to love going their and now I feel like it's someone's private club and we're not invited. I don't think I want to go their for a while.

I am going to stop here for now just because things are busy and this is probably enough for right now.

I hope all of you are doing well!

Megan

Saturday, August 3, 2013

August 3, 2013

Sorry it's been so long since I wrote anything here!

There's been a lot of problems for us and now that they're finally over we are hoping to get back to normal. The big problem was someone reported us because they thought Cydne was underage and it took a lot to prove she wasn't because her family never got her a legal birth certificate. She has one now but it meant going to court and getting the court to accept the records we had. Cydne's family never registered any of their children with the government because they don't believe the government has any business involved with people's families. I believe the same thing.

For a little while it was kind of scary thinking that we could have serious legal problems but the church has good attorneys and it all got sorted out.

Another problem we had was a dispute over water. We have a creek on the property and the previous owners put up a small dam to make a pond and one of the neighbors sued us to take it down. We ended up winning because the judge said we were not taking the water for farming, just holding it back for a pond and she said that was just fine. We used to let these neighbors ride their horses across our land and now we told them to stay out after this and it is really sad to see things go like this.

There's been other stuff but it involves other people and they asked that I don't write about it.

Baby News: Cydne and my pregnancies are doing fine. Christie is trying but Macy is taking some time off from having babies to focus on Jacob and she says she will have another baby when she thinks it is time. She tried for a little while but then just decided to stop.

Christie's little girl Emmy started reading this spring and really took to it. When we're driving now she tries to read everything she sees and is really excited about it! It's so awesome to see her want to learn things! My girls are doing ABC's and numbers but are not reading yet. We all read to the kids and we do story time most days now to help get them started with the reading.

Christie's little boy Eric is driving one of the small tractors around the yard now and he is pretty good at it! He wants to be a construction worker like his daddy and wants to use the little yard tractor to pave a road someday. He's really cute too!

One of our weird things this summer was when Cydne was digging in the garden and she noticed these little rocks that look kind of weird. They are called octahedrons and they have triangles on each side. She collected eight of them and they're not so big but one is about 1/4 of an ounce. Christie looked them up and took some with her to Boston on a trip and a man she knows there said they were diamonds! How cool is that? We found out diamonds can be found around here and they're not the really valuable kind but it's still so awesome to dig and find one! It makes you feel like you have treasure!

We are all kind of excited about the Supreme Court decision on marriage. The pastor says it is just a matter of time now before poly is legalized. I think it would be really awesome for it to be legal because then it would let families like ours stop having to be quiet about it. It would be nice to go shopping with everyone and not worry what people are thinking.

My chickens are doing well. We took in some rescue chickens from the animal shelter and they were so sad! They were thin and missing all sorts of feathers and they were so dirty and smelly! Every one of them got a bath for mites and they've been getting fed and pampered and you can just see them go from being scared critters to happy critters! It really broke my heart to see them in such bad shape and I am going to make sure they have long and happy lives to make up for it.

That's about it for right now. I am marinating beef ribs for a picnic we're having later here at the house. Two of the families we are friends with are all coming over around four so there is still a lot to do.

God bless you all!

Megan

Saturday, April 20, 2013

Wow! Lots of questions!

Wow! I checked in today and found a LOT of questions and will try to get to them all:

1. I understand what you're saying about the women being expected to get soon after marriage. But what happens when someone is infertile? Is there a stigma? How do the women in that position handle that issue within your community?

I've never heard of anyone having any problems because they can't have children. It's just the same with us as with anyone else. I know some women who never had kids and no one says a thing about them. It's not a stigma at all it's just something that happens.

2. Do the women in your church primarily have sex for reproduction? Do you ever get to just for pleasure?

Yes, sex is primarily about having children and yes we also get to have fun! It's not like we become celibate when we're pregnant!

3. Do you cook/bake as much as u used too? Do you guys use crockpot a lot?

Yes, I am still getting up early in the morning to get breakfast going and making bread for the day is usually part of that. I'm also a big fan of the crock pot! My favorite thing to do is to sear a pork roast in a stock pot with vegetable oil and then put it in the crock pot to finish cooking. That way the seared flavor goes into the entire roast and not just the outside of it! Crock pots are also good for making spaghetti sauce and it's great in the winter for hot apple cider. I love the smell of apple cider and cinnamon all through the house!

4. Since I haven't identified what religious group your family are members of, I wonder about not using birth control. Do you have a religious belief about this, like the Catholic Church?

Birth control for us means abstinence. A woman can always choose not to have sex if she doesn't want to or if she wants a break from having kids. But we don't believe in using birth control unless there is a good reason for it like I know a woman who has fibroids and it would be dangerous for her to have any more children. It's a faith thing for us but we're not crazy or anything about it.

Drea and an anonymous person had the same kind of question about women not having kids and I think I got that answered with #1.

5. Also how do your kids handle being in a poly family, especially the older ones? Do they think it's odd that their family is not the norm, so to speak?

I guess to the older girls this is what normal looks like and they handle it the same as anyone would handle being in any other family. Kids with gay parents probably grow up seeing that as normal, too. I know I grew up with my parents being pretty violent and on drugs all the time and I guess I was like twelve before I realized that not everyone was like that.

The terrible things that happened this week in Boston and in Texas have been on my mind and my prayers go out to those people and their families who have been lost and who have lost loved ones. I can't imagine what they are feeling and how they are going to handle the future but my heart is just sick whenever I stop to think about them.

In Boston there was a Reddit page for buying pizza for the doctors and families at the hospitals and I sent two pizzas to Massachusetts General Hospital for the medical staff in ICU. If anyone wants to do the same thing it would be a nice way of letting those people know you love them:

http://www.reddit.com/r/randomactsofpizza

Megan

Wednesday, April 10, 2013

dreamgyrl360's questions...

Hey there! I saw your questions and had a quick second to answer them:

Can you tell us what your typical homeschooling time is like?

In the winter it's more structured since we are inside most of the time and then we do class at the kitchen table. Right now that means we have Hannah, Eric, and Emily doing their different things. Eric and Emily mostly work on reading and really basic math and Hannah has high school work she does. In the spring and summer we mix in a lot of outside things like trips to museums and parks.

What materials do you use?

All sorts of stuff for the younger kids. We get some of Hannah's books and stuff through Child Evangelism Fellowship. Not like they sell it all but they make recommendations for stuff we use. I used a lot of the things they recommended for improving my writing and math skills.

Children are a blessing! Do you guys ascribe to the "quiverfull" movement, or no?

'Quiverfull' is a pretty serious term for some people in the church and we don't use it. To me it is all the same because we end up having a lot of kids just like the people who do say they are quiverfull. The differences have been explained to me a couple times and to me it's like talking about Chevy trucks or Ford trucks and saying how they're totally different when they do the same things.

Just my opinion, okay? I see the thing is that quiverfull people have lots of kids because they say they're supposed to have lots of kids. And some of the quiverfull families like the Duggars have more kids with one wife than Steve has had with FIVE wives!

With us the big deal seems to be is that a wife having kids with her husband is a way to help her commit to her husband so when you first get married there is a LOT of pressure to get pregnant right away. You get pressure as a wife and your husband gets pressure too. We're patriarchal and the pregnancy thing is part of that, like the man is supposed to get his wife pregnant as a symbol of him being in charge. After the first baby there is still no birth control but no one is really on you about having a lot of kids. Some women take long breaks from sex so they can have time between babies and no one seems to mind that much.

I guess then we are not the same as quiverfull people but I can see how we would look like that to people in the rest of the world who just ever have one or two kids.

Friday, April 5, 2013

April 5, 2013. Answers to some questions

I didn't have much on my mind to write but there were some questions so I thought I would answer them.

Kitania asked for an update on the family and after some discussion in the house it was okay to post this much:

Steve is our husband. His first wife was Shari and they had three girls, Stevie (Stephanie), Lauren, and Hannah. Stevie and Lauren are moved out and they have husbands of their own and kids of their own now.

Christie legally married Steve after he and Shari divorced. Christie has four children, Eric, Emily, Renee, and Samuel.

Then there's Macy who has her son Jacob.

I have four children of my own, my twin girls Laura and Patricia, Daniel, and Malachi. I'm expecting another baby in late October of this year.

Cydne came into the family in November and is also expecting a baby around the same time I am.

I left some names out of this on purpose because I was asked to.

Then there were some questions put up by one of my anonymous people who like to troll me and hurt me. But I am going to go ahead and answer the questions anyway.

 So are you getting used to being a breeding cow?

We live on a ranch so this question isn't as bad to us as it would be to the person who asked it. Yes, I am getting used to it. In a way it is true that one of my big roles in life now is to have children. And I LOVE my children! Some people say that the more children you have the more you have to divide your love. That's not true! The more children you have the more God surprises you with your capacity to love more than you thought you could! Having my husband come to me and want me to have more children with him is such an amazing compliment! Getting used to being loved, loving more than ever before, and creating love is a wonderful thing no matter what you call it!

Like having his baby growing inside you as a reminder of who the man in the house is?

Absolutely!

How does Cydne feel about being conquered by her new mate?

She seems pretty happy about it. And I'm happy for her and she's been an awesome addition to our family!

Sorry to cut this short but I have to go and chat with a friend!

Megan