Saturday, April 29, 2017

Questions?

I haven't taken questions for a long time so if anyone has something on their mind then ask away!

I promise I'll answer every question!

- Megan

Saturday, April 8, 2017

The Sex Post

Happy April to Everyone!

Things are going well here right now and this time three months from now there will be three new infants in the house and we'll all be going crazy doing diaper laundry at the same time! We have a separate washing machine just for diapers and it'll be getting a lot of attention very soon!
 
One of the topics I don't really get into is sex. I get lots of questions about it (some of them pretty intrusive) and I suppose it's time to talk about it.

I'm just going to write what's on my mind so forgive me if it gets confused or something like that.

Okay. Here goes.

So I guess the first thing to say is that right at the start I had to adjust to sex being a very up front part of the life. You can't avoid it on a ranch because you see animals doing things all the time and the kids all see it, too. Our older kids all figured out the connections to sex and babies and if anyone thinks it's hard to deal with anonymous questions on the blog then try having your five year old daughter ask you straight up if daddy does to you what the rooster does to the hens! THAT is hard!

My response, by the way, was that it was something that we did and that it made us feel close and loved and that sometimes we were blessed with a baby after doing that and that it was an expression of God's love. And after all that thought put into an answer I got 'Uh-huh' as an answer and that was that!

In any case it's very present around here. To us it's our normal thing and we're used to it. You have to have some discretion when opening bedroom doors and we have out little things we do like hanging a little knit thing on our doorknobs as a 'do not disturb' sign. You learn to give other people their privacy.

It's also one of those things that we always know who's doing what and when and we all have this kind of mutual understanding that we never talk about it as a group but we will talk about it in private. The only time this gets weird is when someone is bashful about it and wants to act like nothing happened when we all know what's happening. You have to be polite and let it go.
 
Some of my friends who are not poly tell me that sex isn't something they talk about very much. They might do their thing in the bedroom as man and wife but then outside the bedroom they don't talk about it. In that way I guess we're not all that different from other families.
 
But where we absolutely are different is with birth control. The popular view is that we're weird because we don't use birth control but a friend of mine said that if you stop and think about it that using birth control is actually kind of a fetish. I also don't play the game of how I'm supposed to be guilty for having kids when the country has to bring in millions of immigrants to offset the birthrate in the country.
 
If someone is really worried about over population in the US then stop immigration. After you do that then come talk to me and maybe I'll listen.
 
Where not using birth control changes sex the most is in how it isn't casual. Sex is a commitment if you're not using birth control. It's a serious decision and not just something you do for fun.
 
I'll be honest that I was terrified the first time I had sex with Steve. It was something that wasn't going to be undone and the whole idea was to have a baby. There's just nothing as sobering as having a man on top of you and you're wondering if you're doing the right thing and you're having second thoughts and then all of the sudden it's over and there's no going back. It still amazes me how your whole life can change so much in that moment when you're both breathing hard.
 
And I guess that's the single most important thing here is that for us sex is a massive commitment. I mean I feel more married to Steve because I have six of his children (soon to be seven!) than any piece of paper could ever make me feel. And I think that's the way it's supposed to work.
 
Now the other thing is that this isn't the Playboy Mansion. Sex is a part of what happens here but it's not the only thing. There's a ton of work that happens every single day, there's a lot of worries that happen all the time, we have health issues and worries, and we have other concerns like anyone else.
 
And I guess I should mention we're taking in a fifth wife. A family lost their husband when he rolled over his pickup and died and we're taking in one of the wives who is due next week with her second baby and we're also taking in her wonderful 4 year old daughter. Eventually she'll be a wife for Steve if everything works out but then that's going to be more work to get her set up and all.
 
The other thing to mention is that we're not into weird things. Sex around here is about babies and love and some of the things that a lot of people accept as 'normal' are not normal for us. That doesn't make us prudes or anything it just means we chose what we wanted and that's how it works for us is all.
 
I hope you all have a wonderful Spring time and that you get out there and enjoy the flowers!
 
- Megan
 
UPDATE 4/12/2017: Maddie called last night and said she'd changed her mind and is going to go live with a friend instead.

Saturday, December 31, 2016

Happy New Year! 2017!

Happy New Year everyone!


I hope 2017 is a wonderful and loving year for all of us!


Hugs and Love,


Megan

Thursday, November 24, 2016

Bullies and Blackmailers

Happy Thanksgiving!

I hope you and your family are having a wonderful day! We'll be having about twenty people here today (maybe a few more) and the upside of that is a lot of hands to help in the kitchen!

With that I hope you all have a blessed and Happy Thanksgiving!

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Now I'm taking a moment this morning to post about how I've managed to attract the attention of another bully/blackmailer. This is someone I angered or upset on another website who decided to stalk me on the internet and try to scare me by threatening to "reveal" things about me to my friends on this blog.

After some consideration and discussion with a very wise person I've decided to take away this person's thrill by being up front about some things. For the people who know me from Yahoo Messenger there won't be too many surprises here. I've already shared most of this with you.

For the people who only know me from this blog there may be some surprises and if they upset you or disappoint you then I'm sorry.

In no particular order here goes:

* I am moderating comments for now because once again someone thinks they have a right to use my blog as a weapon to hurt me. To quote no end of basketball players: "Not in my house!"
You don't get to use this space as a place to hurt me. Not now, not ever.

* The bully accuses me of using a friendlier 'voice' on this blog than I do on other places in the net and that's true. Here I always feel like I am talking to my friends and I speak differently to my friends than I do to sometimes hostile strangers on the net. I think I am using my internet voice right now and not my 'speaking to friends' voice.

* It's not the first time I've been accused of being a boy/man. I've been hearing this kind of thing ever since junior high school. I sometimes get compared to Ann Coulter if that helps. I don't think I need to say anything more on this.

* I don't sound like other people and that's true. I am somewhat autistic and with that comes an above average amount of narcissism and an inability to perceive certain emotions. One of my close friends says I am 'emotionally color blind'. It's not that I don't understand the feelings of other people it's just that I don't feel them myself sometimes. Some people think I'm cold that way and maybe I am but it's who I am.

* I do not post a lot about my family anymore and is it any wonder why when there's people out on the net who want to use every bit of information to try to stalk you, track you down, and act as if they have some sort of power over you? I've had one stalker come to the ranch and that was pretty scary. Now that I have children I am going to make clear that the next crazy person who shows up on the ranch to try to prove some insane point is absolutely positively going to get shot. I am not going to risk the safety of my family or myself trying to play any more crazy games with anyone. Period.

* I was raped when I was sixteen. This is not a secret. This being a mostly family friendly blog anymore I don't post on here that my sexual responses are skewed. I get aroused by forceful sex and it's not because I'm into rape it's because I'm a masochist and at some level I don't get aroused unless there's an element of "I deserve this" in the mix. Bluntly, I'm fucked up and I know it. Anyone reading this blog and who knows me off of the blog knows it too. Yes, I've tried therapy and the best advice I received was to not worry about trying to not be this way but to accept that it's part of who I am.

* I do not have a formal college education but I know a lot of things. Prior to joining my family I didn't really have that many resources for education and school for myself was not about education it as just about trying to do enough to graduate and get it over with. After joining my family I was embarrassed that Steve's older daughters were younger than me and they knew so much more than I did. I redid high school as a home school curriculum, worked on my attention problems, and after I got reading glasses found that I liked to read.
Steve has a huge library of political and military books and that's what was there to read and now I like some of that stuff and I also like to read fiction! I NEVER read any fiction growing up and now I read it all the time. I'm right now reading the story Ivanhoe and then will be working my way through a collection of classic stories that the older girls had.
I'm also trying to work on my writing. I write what's on my mind and some of it's offensive to some people (I'm effed up, right?).

* I post on political sites and one in particular I favor called Free Republic. What got me started on the site is that it's all text with no advertising and it's easy to use over a really bad wifi/DSL connection. Yahoo Messenger is mostly useless to me anymore because it's hard to use unless I'm on the computer and no one else is using the net at the same time. I also post on chicken discussion groups, cooking forums, family forums, and breast feeding forums. I had an account on Tumblr which was an outlet for me and that's been ruined by this bully.

I have NOT had active accounts on dating or poly dating sites since I met my family on the Sac Poly Yahoo Group site. About four or five years ago an internet stalker/bully/idiot signed me up for a pile of dating sites and some really disgusting things and all but one of the dating sites ended up cancelling the accounts for me. The one site let me change the password and after I removed all of the content from the profile the account has been inactive ever since.

* I am an autodidact. That means I am self-taught. I learned that from someone on Free Republic...which is part of why I like that site. I've learned a lot there. In the past year or so I've made a serious effort to improve my vocabulary and I intend to use it whether or not it upsets anyone else.

* I'm obsessive compulsive. It is not a disorder to me because I direct it to things where it becomes a gift and not a curse. I like repetitive things like quilting so I make quilts and donate them to people who need them. I've mastered target shooting much to the joy of my husband! I'm also taking up knitting.

I hope none of this bothers any of you but there it is.

And to the person who felt like it was his/her personal mission in life to attack me I'd like to invite you to go to hell. You will not scare me or intimidate me.

- Megan

Sunday, October 30, 2016

+ Seven!!!

My big news is that I am confirmed pregnant with my seventh baby! I'm about six weeks along and due in the middle of June! It's crazy I know but I'm really happy about it and we're going to have at least three infants all at the same time here!


The reality that our nice house isn't big enough has Steve planning a new part of the house to connect the guest house to the main house and that will make it all one big house. It's too late in the season to do anything right now but he is thinking to start on it in the spring. He's agreed to make the extension look just like the rest of the house so it fits in. Our old house in California was kind of bad with it being like four different houses all up against each other and it looked tacky.


To answer the two questions on the last post that look like they're from the same person:


1. Are you going to delete your Yahoo account like so many other poly people are doing right now?


A: Why would I delete my Yahoo account? I changed the password and that should be fine.


2. So if your daughters want to get married at 16 to some older man are you going to be okay with it?


A: Yes, I will. I mean it has to be legal but I'd say yes if that's what they wanted to do. I wish I had done that myself and I wish I knew I could have done it. My parents probably would have been happy to get me out of the house anyway.


I don't know why people get so upset about this kind of thing because it used to be normal in the USA. My great-grandmother was 13 when she married my 16yo great-grandfather in Nebraska and no one thought they were crazy or anything it was just normal. Not every girl should be forced to go to college and have massive college debts that she can't ever pay off. There is NOTHING wrong with wanting to grow up to be a mom and a wife and I'm really not that patient with people who think you're a loser if you want to be old fashioned.


My question now to everyone else is do you think it's wrong for a 16yo girl to get married and start a family if that's what she wants to do? Also, please say when/if you got married and why that was right for you or if you'd do it any other way.


Happy Fall to everyone!


Hugs and Love,


Megan

Thursday, September 15, 2016

Answers to some questions...

Good Morning and Happy Thursday!

I received some questions on email from someone who just wants to go by "J" and here they are:

Do you and your sister wives do any prenatal care outside the home?  
Yes, we have a doctor in town and she's cool with us.
Do you have a OB/Gyn that visits you?  
Yes, the same doctor.
Do you prefer to birth naturally, in your home?  What about your sister wives?  
Yes, we do! I had to have the twins in the hospital but the rest of my kids and all of them (I hope) will be born at home. It's just a lot nicer and there's no social workers to deal with afterwards.

Do you or your sisters use a birthing pool to have your babies?
No. We have a big shower in the master bathroom and that's where we do it because it's tons easier to clean up.

What do you think of unassisted childbirth or orgasmic childbirth?
Hate to say I don't know what that is.
 
(After I replied to him I looked it up here: http://www.unassistedchildbirth.com/ )

Do you and your sisters help each other with the births?  Such as delivering each other’s babies?  Or does Steve get involved here?
The OB/Gyn or sometimes a midwife comes out to the house and everyone else is usually involved too. It's a family thing and the older kids sometimes will get to see a baby born.
 
And Andrew had a question if Steve was trying to give me a baby and the answer as usual is yes! LOL!
 
There you go!
 
Megan

Friday, September 2, 2016

Happy September!!

It's  September again and it's the start of my happy season: Fall!

I love the summer and running around without shoes and getting to wear sun dresses, shorts, and tanks, but fall is my favorite season! It's the start of the time when the evenings have a chill in the air and when I can grab a child and pull him close and it's not too hot to enjoy cuddle time!

Tomorrow is my 26th birthday and while we don't have too much planned I know there will be some lovely surprises in store for me tomorrow and I can't wait!

The season starts off with baby news because Cydne is for sure pregnant again and is due around the end of May next year. Christie QUIT her job after a lot of years and is going to be home 24/7 from now on and I can't tell you all how happy that makes me to have her home! Amy is doing well and has her two month anniversary soon and she's starting to relax a bit and enjoy how we do things our own way back here at the ranch.

My little Laura is wearing glasses now and she is nearsighted with an astigmatism and the eye doctor says it is pretty common for red heads. She's not too bad with the eyesight but was pretty happy to be able to see a lot further than before and spent the last week telling us all about all the things around the ranch!

The election craziness is pretty wild. It's crazy how Donald Trump became a racist and all those awful things only after he said he was running for President. Before that everyone liked him just fine. To me he just seems like an awful lot of people I know who just say what they think without trying to make it sound like something they don't think. That used to be called honesty but people don't like honesty anymore.

Hillary looks sick and it seems like a lot of people are not wanting to think about it. You just look at her in 2008 and look at her now and you see it plain as day. Doesn't mean she's too sick to do the job but she's got something going on and I pray for her healing and for her peace.

People are getting up now and it's time for me to go get breakfast started so I hope you all have a wonderful September and the start of fall!

Hugs!

Megan