Saturday May 30, 2009

I'll start with the questions from what cheer! :



How do you and your sisterwives feel about birth control? Does the church take a particular position on this that influences you?



The church does not allow birth control except for women who doctors say should not have anymore babies for health reasons. This is so everyone takes it very seriously when they commit to each other and for when they have sex. I will admit that when I came here I really had not thought about sex a lot and even when I wanted to be part of the family and marry Steve I still was not really thinking about it. That is sort of naive but when your use to sex being so casual with your friends and at school with the way teachers talk about it its easy to not take it so seriously.



With birth control it takes away from the commitment two people are suppose to have when they have sex. You can just have your good time and then walk away from each other the next day and that is it. It takes something really special and makes it nothing more than just like a nice way to spend a night.



So I wrote about my feelings on this once before and I don't want a big argument so don't everyone try to think so much about what I write next, okay? (-:



On my wedding night I really had not thought about everything so much and was like sure I wanted to be with Steve on my wedding night. I did not have to be with him that night and no one forced me to, it was my choice. But I wanted to have a wedding night like anyone else. So when things started with Steve it really did hit me right then how serious it was what I was doing because it wasn't like we were just being together we were together and maybe making a baby and EVERYTHING in my life was changing in that moment. It wasn't just like I had a big wedding party and now it was I wanted another party time it was life changing serious and I knew in that moment that I could not just walk away if I just wanted to.



It makes you take marriage much more serious and it makes you really think about it if you want to leave and thats good because it makes people work out problems together instead of just walking away from them.



If you go back and read some of what I posted about how the church started it makes sense. They use to be all free love and everything and no one was committed to anyone and it made a mess. This rule makes sense so the mistakes that happened before don't happen again.



How many children I want is not something the church teaches about but I am thinking I want four or five right now and maybe later I might want more. Right now I am only wanting to start with one!



I liked the other question and lol'd on it! Steve is not always wanting to do things every night. He works hard and is sometimes really tired and just needs to sleep. I've had a few nights with him now where we just sleep and then I am up before he is so nothing happens. Same with Shari and Christie. We are normal this way like anyone else I guess.



Christie getting pregnant and nursing is just Christie I guess. She was nursing Eric when she got pregnant with Emmy so its not like she never did this before. I'm really happy for her because she says she is never happier than when she is pregnant and I can see her being a little more peaceful this week so I guess it is true. I read a little and some of my friends on email say that nursing does not prevent babies in all women and one of my friends said she got pregnant with her twins three months after her first baby so it is not a rule that nursing will stop you from getting pregnant. Some people say that right after you have had a baby is the best time to get pregnant because your body is already ready to be pregnant.

The weather here cooled off and last night was actually cold. We adults and Stevie stayed up late to watch a movie and then I was chilly so Steve and Shari asked me to come sleep with them. It was nice just to be cuddled and that was all that happened so there is another night when we just sleep.

The chicks are doing well and so far I am blessed that none of them have died. I was told to expect that maybe four or five would die and all of them seem fine. They love the cool weather and we have them all out to the coop for the day so they can play in the sun. The girls are with them all the time so they don't have to worry about the cats.

I am not going back to regular college in the fall. I don't like all of the studying and reading and I have real problems with some of the teachers being so political all the time. I want to learn to be a better cook so Christie suggested I go to a culinary arts college and I decided to say yes to it and then Steve and Shari said yes to paying the tuition for me. It will be almost a year to get my PCA degree and I have to do six weeks at a restarant at the end of the classes to finish the degree. The classes start in September and I will be going to the school to sign up on Tuesday. I think it will be a lot of fun!

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That's the news right there! Christie got a + on her pregnancy test! She is so happy about it and we're all very happy for her! She has a due date in January 2010 and that will be a very good way to start a new year!

My baby chicks arrived today too so in all the excitment I had to get 100 baby chicks into the basement where it is cooler for them. It was 100 today here and it was too hot to put the chicks outside. The girls have been all over them and saying how cute they are. We borrowed two grape lugs from a neighbor and the chicks are in those for now until they get big enough to go outside.

Sorry to make this so short but it is hot and I want to get back outside for the breeze.

Another day in paradise

Okay so maybe it isn't paradise but it sure is close!



Thank you to everyone for the stuff about how women synchronize themselves. I had no idea about that and when I mentioned it at breakfast this morning everyone was like, "Yeah, where have you been?" I guess my mom and me never talked about that much so I never noticed anything. Now I know the schedule in the house and there's four women on it already! Speaking of schedules Christie is late by a few days and we're wondering if she will have good news soon.



I'm wondering when I will have a reason to wonder about this myself.



Other news. A 21 year-old woman from back east is coming to visit two of the families on Friday and she will be staying for two weeks. I had not mentioned this in my blog until now because I wasn't so sure what the deal was and I guess it just didn't feel right to post it. But anyway she found my blog and we emailed a lot and then she asked to come visit and then I passed it along to some other people to handle. We have two families who are very interested in meeting her and so she is going to stay with each of them for a week. She also wants to meet me so we will do that at the church meeting for June 7th. I had a phone call from one of the families wife and she was so happy about this. I did not mean for this to be something for recruiting people but I guess that is part of this. I also found out that opening up the church to the outside is kind of complicated but for some very good reasons.



I'm getting excited about my chickens showing up soon. It was hot today so we will be very careful with them in the heat. The trailer we made into their coop is under a tree to help keep it cool and we will have a swamp cooler for it when it is really hot.



Stevie's boyfriend moved into his house this weekend and I hear it is a nice place with a lot of room. He's wanting to have the church meeting at his new house and make it a house blessing service for July. I think that would be really nice.



The law to ban gay marriage got upheld in the California supreme court. I am not sure how to feel about it. There were some people who wanted to sue for poly rights if gay marriage was allowed and now that will have to wait or maybe they will try to sue up in Oregon.



Donald gets a big thank you for the idea about the recent post gadget! I think it is pretty cool!

May 22, 2009

Wow! I am so blown away by all the comments! Thank you everyone!

Like Donald said I am not too worried about stalkers because I already had/have one online and it got handled and if anyone came to the house it is not just Steve they need to worry about because Shari, Christie, and Stevie have their own shotguns and I will be getting one someday too. We are way out of town so if we need the sheriff it can be an hour or more before they can be here so we have to be able to handle things ourselves. Steve said When seconds count the police are only minutes away and that we have to be able to handle our own problems. I feel very safe here but I am still very careful not to put things in the blog which might show or say where we live.

Steve is helping me do the chicken boxes today. He cut all the pieces last night and today we just have to put them together and I will have room for almost 300 chickens but we will start with just 50 so I don't have so much to do all at once. The chickens are mostly for eggs but they are supposed to stop laying after three to five years and then they will be dinner. The chickens are ordered and they are Rhode Island Reds and should be here next week sometime.

I am not pregnant. It's that time again and I know. One thing that is weird for me is my schedule is all messed up. Sometimes I am early sometimes I am late and that is just since moving up here and being married. I miss being able to know exactly when my time would happen for laundry reasons. )-:

It is nice and cool here today so I will be out to do some gardening after the chicken boxes are set up. This morning Christie made some hazelnut coffee and then made blueberry scones and it was so wonderful! We had them in the kitchen and it smelled so nice! Shari was pretty happy and she even laughed a few times so it is nice to see her feeling better.

It is really nice outside so I am just going to check email and then get out. Have a nice and safe Memorial Day weekend and be sure to remember the soldiers who died for our country when you have your BBQ and beer and all.

Answers!

Before I get to the answers I want to say thank you! to everyone who was praying for Shari. She is doing okay and the really beautiful funeral that everyone put on did a lot to make her feel better. Patty was loved by a lot of people and she will be loved for a long time to come.

Having everyone back it has been a very busy week. Lots of chores and getting back to the normal routine has been an adjustment after the lazy time without too many people to take care of here. My chicken coop is here! Steve had an old office trailer brought up and is going to help me make nest boxes in it and after we get it set up with a little chicken yard we can order my chickens! It will be more work but it will be my thing to do here to help the family.

Okay I said I would do the answers.

Donald had two:
Was it Marcus who emailed this suggestion?

No. It wasn't.

Are you allowed more than one question?

Yes.

CM asked:
What is the one thing you like about being in a polygamous marriage?

But it isn't just one thing I like! I love my sisterwives, I love that I am not alone, I love having a big family, I love being loved by so many people, and I love that when there are problems in the house its not just me and Steve having to talk about them.

What is the one thing you hate about being in a polygamous marriage?

There is nothing I 'hate' in this. There are things to learn to live with but there is nothing to hate.

Alice said some really nice things! (-:

Marcus, go watch the second episode of 'Big Love'. I relate to some of that and it is different from what I was used to. That's your answer. No, I don't scream in bed.

DreamGyrl360 asked if any of us were Steve's legal wife and Shari is.

Heather & Erica both asked who gets to name my babies and the tradition is the mom gets to do that. I will listen to what anyone says but I like that it is all my choice!

easier2run asked if I prefer a boy or a girl and I want both and hope I have at least one boy and one girl. But to start I think I want a little boy and I guess just because I want a little boy! I also don't have any names yet but I do know if I have a boy he won't be named Marcus! I have the choice to have my baby at home or at the hospital and I am going to wait until I need to see the doctor to decide that. If I can have him or her at home I think I would like that but if it needs to be at the hospital for safety reasons I will do that instead.

Erica asked if I kept my maiden name and I did for official things but with the church I am Mrs. Steve and my children will have his last name on their birth certificates. Christie legally changed her name to Steve's and I might do that someday too but it is not a big deal.

Questions

I was up way late last night and had to be up at 5:30 this morning to get back to normal. I am so tired! I won't be on here a lot this week or today because there will be so much to do with everyone home and I want to be with them all. Especially Steve!

I got a suggestion from an email that I 'open it up to questions' like a press conference so if anyone wants any questions answered go ahead. Just this time I promise to answer anything.

Big Love

So I finally saw the first two episodes of Big Love. Christie has them on DVD and I just have not cared so much. But today is hot again and I can't be out in the sun and then on the computer all the time so I watched it. Here is what I have to say:

• I'm really glad we all live in one house. We will all have our own space again in a week or so so I do like that but I also like that we don't have to go next door to see anyone. The way they live in that show they are cut off from the rest of the family and I don't think I would like that at all. I LIKE having my sisterwives right near me.
• The old man married to the 14 year old girl is sick and should be shot.
• No offense to anyone but I like that we have a Pastor and not some dictator prophet. Christie said when Steve first saw what the prophet was doing he just said "130 grains in the corner pocket" meaning he would just shoot him. I love my husband! (-:
• I was surprised by the sex scenes being kind of real. I could relate to some of it and that surprised me. I also understood why Christie didn't want me watching this when the girls were home. But I am thinking of buying Steve some Viagara for Christmas! (joke!)
• The wives don't get along too well. I know this makes good TV but it would be hard to be like that. We have problems too but I don't think we would last if we were as bad as them.
• I don't want a car of my own. I don't need one and I don't care.
• They are confused. They are mixing too much traditional life with modern life and it does not work. The young wife wearing sexy things in front of everyone was not good and then she was practically humping the oldest wife's son in the kitchen! I can't imagine anything like that happening. So I get why dresses are a good idea. Wearing pretty much the same stuff at home we don't have to worry about anyone putting on a show or whatever. But it was nice this week to not worry about that and just wear shorts and tanks most of the week. But then I got a sunburn so the dresses make sense again.
• There was this one scene at the FLDS town where the women were gardening and dang if that didn't look like me and Christie yesterday!!! We had to weed our garden in the hot sun so we had our dresses and hats on so we didn't get burned and then we were using hoes just like in the show. They got one thing right!
• The children were awful. I had a hard time to watch the part where the young wife had so many kids going crazy on her. You don't wait for things to go bad and then try to get them under control you keep them under control and then you don't worry about it. But this is just TV I know.
• I know this is a very interesting TV show for a lot of people but for us in real life things are so much more boring and I will say Thank You God! for that. It just isn't like what we have and I am happy for that.

I can't wait to have everyone home! This place is so quiet and empty without them all here. And I am missing Steve and seeing the couples on the TV show was not a help. They are leaving early tomorrow and not late like they first thought so they will be home in the afternoon sometime. Yay!

It is been hot here this weekend and the only nice part is when the sun goes down to go out to the pool. It's nice to swim and not worry about a sunburn and it will be the way I will do most of my swimming anymore. Skin cancer runs in my family and I don't want to deal with that.

I told one of my email friends about this and I was told I was a vampire! It feels like it sometimes. Last year I went to Aruba with friends and was out at the beach a lot and even with the spf45 sunscreen I still came home with burns in some places you don't want burns. OUCH. So I am a vampire anymore! Ahhh the sun!! Ahhhh!!!