Sunday, August 29, 2010

Morgan's questions

I will keep doing the questions because it's soooo easy to have something to write about! Here are Morgan's questions:

What do the kids (mainly the older ones) think of the poly lifestyle? How is the subject handled with this kids?

They grew up around poly families so they don't really ever say too much about it. They know they have choices in life so they don't have to do it and even if they did want to do it it takes a long time for a family to be able to do poly. They have to be debt free and all that. About half the kids from the church leave for college and don't come back when they are done and that is just fine with everyone.

Do they have outside friends, and do they realize that their family is different/uncoventional?

Not a lot of church kids have outside friends and it is just because most families homeschool.

Do you guys make much of a distinction between whose kids are whose or are you more like one big family?

Everyone knows who their mom is but I think the nice thing for the kids is they have different moms to go to for different things. In some ways we are the one big family but then in others we aren't. No one makes a big deal about it.

What is Steve like as a father to all the kids?

I wish he had been my father. I mean that. He is really good with the kids and he makes a lot of time for them and still gets lots of things done. I think he works out of town sometimes to get some rest because he is so busy when he is home.

How often do you have sex with steve?

Right now more than Christie because she is due pretty soon and is not in the mood and Macy is at about 6 months and is not always interested. Sometimes he just sleeps with Christie or Macy to be close to them and that is really sweet. He did the same with me before the twins were born. But lately I am with him more than usual.

Maybe this has been answered before, but I can't remember. Are your intimate times always 1 on 1, or do you ever sleep with more than one sisterwife and steve? What is that like? I hope none of these are too innapropriate/personal!

Sometimes we sleep together and that's mostly just cuddle time and maybe some kissing and it is really nice when it's cold out. It's nothing weird.

Friday, August 27, 2010

Ollie & Charmed's questions

Ollie asked these things and the questions are not so bad really so don't anyone get all upset okay?

1. Are you liking sex more now?

Yes I am.

2. Is it still scary when your husband is trying to impregnate you?

Sometimes it is. I mean it is hard not to think about what it means but most of the scary stuff had to do with being a mom for the first time and that is over with so it is not so scary anymore.

3. Are you looking forward to being pregnant again?

Mostly yes! I don't know how to explain it but I really liked being pregnant at least until like the last month or so and I am hoping it will be easier when it is just one baby and not two.

4. Do you still have regrets about joining a poly family?

No, I love my family and can't imagine anything different now.

5. Ever think you might leave like Shari did?

No.

6. If you did would you want to be in another poly family or would you want to have a man of your own?

I don't want to leave so this is not something I've really thought about.

7. Is sex satisfying for you? Do you have orgasms and do you ever initiate sex with Steve?

Yes, sometimes. Yes. and Yes.

8. Do you still have other women contact you about joining your church and poly community?

Just one or two this year. So it is not like last year when some of them actually contacted one of the pastors to see about doing this.

9. Now that Shari is gone are you wearing sexier clothes around the house?

Not really sexy but more comfortable.

10. What's your favorite clothes to wear?

I'm looking forward to winter and wearing a robe and pjs!

11. Ever think you will take a regular job?

I really hope not.

12. Are there any movie stars you like? If so, who?

Anne Hathaway. I loved her in The Princess Diaries and in The Devil Wears Prada. And Matthew McConaghey!

13. Favorite movie?

Titanic.

14. If Steve were to introduce you to another 19 year old girl he wanted to make his wife what would you tell her?

Steve is not going to do this but I think I would tell her the truth about what all this means and that it is not a fairy tale life.

15. Think you might be jealous of a new wife?

Definitely. I don't know how I wouldn't be.

16. What's your favorite pizza?

Ham, pineapple, and bell pepper.

17. Does your church allow alcohol?

Yes, but we are not allowed to get drunk.

18. Do you love Steve? I mean do you love him as a lover?

Sometimes I am all mushy for him but most of the time I am just happy to have him there.

19. What do you miss about California?

Not driving 40 miles to go shopping.

20. What do you like about your new home that you didn't have in California?

Peace and quiet, no crazy people on the road, no one staring at you when you go shopping, people say hi to you all the time here and no one even looks at you in California like they are scared to say hi or something. People are just a lot friendlier here.


August 27, 2010 1:03 PM
charmed said...

14. Do you and Steve, or Steve and the other wives, ever have date nights, like where he takes you out somewhere just the two of you(or them) to spend time alone? or is it pretty much the whole family spending time together most of the time?

We are not doing dates right now just because money is really tight and it costs a lot to go somewhere. I mean we are 40 miles from town.

15. Do you dress your girls in matching outfits?

No. I got some matching outfits for them as presents but I never have them in the same thing at the same time. I really want them to be who they are and not ever half of someone else.

16. Do you still run like you and Christi were before?

No. The roads are mostly gravel and it is too hard to run on them. We have a treadmill here and I use that sometimes but Christie will probably use it more after her baby comes.

17. Any regrets about joining your poly family?

The only regret I ever had was I wish I had taken things a lot slower. I was really stupid when I came here and thought it was a big fairy tale because things were so much better than with my mom and I rushed into things. I didn't have to do the wedding night and I could have waited but I wanted the fairy tale wedding night and was not really ready for all of that.

18. What kind of disagreements does your family have(if any) from time to time?

CHORES!!!! Chores are a very big deal around here because you have to figure out what you can't do when you are pregnant and then everyone else has to agree and then someone else has to do your work for you. Lauren and Hannah are not so big into doing everything since their mom left and then with Macy and Christie pregnant at the same time that means me, Lauren, and Hannah have a lot of the hard work to do and it is easy to get really tired of doing all that all the time.

19. do you ever get upset with your sister wives?

Yes, sometimes.

20. Do you ever feel jealous of your sister wives? and if so how do you deal with it?

Yes. When I was expecting the girls and had to stop being with Steve I missed him a lot and it was hard to know he was with someone else when I really wanted to be held and I got a little jealous. I just had to deal with it is all because no one was doing anything wrong and I knew what I was getting into when I joined the family. It is my problem and not theirs.

Thursday, August 26, 2010

Meg's questions

If you have more children in the future, would you consider allowing your sisterwives to act as a wet nurse rather than use bottles if they were willing?

Yes, I did that for Christie's daughter Emily for a while. I don't see anything wrong with that but I know it bothers some women.

How are Shari's daughters reacting to their new twin sisters?

Just fine. I think having babies around is pretty normal to them and they used to babysit for other families so they know some more stuff with babies that I did not know at first.

If your chickens stop laying, will you use them for meat so you know where your food comes from?

We already do. I have a couple special chickens who are more pets and we'll never do that with them but the rest are chickens and that is what they are for. The ones that have problems end up on the table like if they are laying soft shell eggs all the time or eggs without shells.

What is your favorite kind of cake to make for your family?

My favorite is chocolate with cherry filling and buttercream frosting but everyone else likes my Boston Cream Pie. I make it more like a cake than a pie and my trick is I use banana slices between the layers to make it stand up better and then everyone likes the banana slices.

Would you consider taking up knitting or sewing as hobbies, especially since they could be used as a means of providing clothing for your family?

That's weird you asked because I am starting quilting this fall and joining the quilting circle when it starts up next month.

What is your favorite dinner to make since taking the cooking classes? -Meg

The best one I have done is a pork shoulder roast. I took a 15 pound pork shoulder and put it in a 18 quart pot with vegetable oil on the bottom. I preheated it on a high heat to where the oil spattered when you dropped a little water in it and then seared the pork shoulder all the way around. I burned it a little on purpose to give it some flavor. Then I filled the pot up with water, a bottle of red wine, basil leaves, a pinch of anise and added about a cup of salt and then let it simmer for almost 6 hours. Then I pulled the pork out and strained the liquid and then used Kitchen Bouquet and some flour to make a gravy and added some pepper.

I served it with steamed Brussels sprouts and Idaho Gold potatoes mashed with one yam and butter. The yam adds a neat texture to the potatoes and it makes for a nice color balance on the plate. The whole dinner was really easy to do and I used only two pots. One for the pork and then one to boil the potatoes and I put the steamer over that pot for the carrots.

There were no leftovers and I only really had two pots to clean up after dinner so that is my favorite dinner so far.

Monday, August 23, 2010

More answers

I had a few comments about Patty crawling and yes she is kind of crawling. Not like all over the house or anything but she can get up and crawl around some by dragging herself around. She's not holding her head up all the way yet and she isn't using her legs yet but I guess that will happen. Christie said Eric and Emma were not this early to crawl but our new doctor said it is okay and she's seen it before. Patty also makes little happy sounds and Laura is not doing that yet.


churchmusician said...
Just a few questions:

--Do you plan to homeschool your children?


Yes, at least until high school. I think I want my girls to go to a regular high school so they can have things like prom and all that.

--How do you like your new church?

It's really different and I am making friends but I miss the old church too.

--Can Shari's daughters see their mom and Stevie on a regular basis? (This is important to me, because I spent 11 years in a foster home and didn't have contact with my siblings.)

We have not heard from Shari in like 2 weeks and she has said she wants the girls to stay here. Stevie has not visited here yet but we plan on sending the girls to visit her when they want to go.

--Would you prefer for your daughters to be poly, when they're old enough to marry?

I want them to be happy and all of that will be up to them. I had my choice and they deserve and will have theirs. But my first wish for them would be to go to college and have a better life and have more choices than I did.

charmed said...
8. What is a typical day like in your house


Most of our days ARE typical! That was a great question! If Steve is not working then things start around 5am and it's usually me and Lauren getting up to get breakfast going and then Lauren goes out to feed the animals. Everyone else is up around 6am and has breakfast and after that I clean up and Hannah takes the four babies and Macy will help with dishes or she goes out to weed in the garden. Right now Christie just does what she can until she gets tired or she gets on the computer to work if she has work to do. If Steve is home he is usually out to town to buy stuff or he will ride the fenceline and fix the fence if it needs it. He also does a lot of work around here and the place needs it. It's a nice place but when it got foreclosed on it sat for a year and a lot of things got let go. Lunch is around noon or one depending on what everyone is doing and we all stop and have lunch and then it is back to chores and things. I like to take time after lunch to be with my girls and then in the afternoon I try to do some baking like bread or maybe a cake for dinner. No one really likes pies so I don't make them anymore. I usually start dinner around six anymore just because no one is hungry at five when we used to do it. Then I clean up and have time with my girls and then sit with the family for the evening. We watch more TV now and part of that is because we get Dish TV and there is more to watch but then it gets turned off at 9pm and most everyone goes to bed. 9pm to 10pm I usually stay up and have my quiet time if I can.

9. Do you still talk to your mom, what does she think of your life now?

We talk once in a while but she has a new job and a new boyfriend so it is not so much anymore and that is okay because she needs to focus on her life I think.

10. Do you have a Garden at the new house, like you did at the old one? and a pool?

The garden here is smaller and has to be fenced because of the deer and it won't grow in the winter because it snows here. We do have a pool and Steve might have to drain it for the winter. It came with a tent thing that's all messed up and it needs to be fixed or replaced but we don't have the money for that right now.

11. how many kids do you think you might want/have?

Four or five would be perfect for me but I think I will probably have maybe six to eight when I stop having kids. I mean it is just math to say that and I am okay having kids if we can afford to do it.

12. do you use disposable diapers at your house or does anyone use the cloth ones?

Cloth. We use separate washing machine and dryer for them just because it is icky to think about and sometimes they really smell. We use baking soda, vinegar, and a little bleach when we wash them and that takes care of making them smell fresh again. The diapers last about two months when you have to replace them. It is expensive to me but it ends up being cheaper than disposable diapers.

13. do you have any hobbies besides cooking, or regular household stuff?

I used to think this blog was a hobby but it isn't so much anymore. I don't always know what to write that I have not written before so sometimes anymore I just let it go for a while. I don't do email so much anymore and I am on Yahoo chat less and less. I am trying to read more but that is about it. I think I will try to do quilting this winter when we can't go out so much and that might be fun.

Thanks for the questions!

Saturday, August 21, 2010

Charmed's questions

Charmed responded first (thank you!) so here goes.

1.is Macey pregnant yet?

Macy is pregnant and due in late November or early December. I haven't written much about her on here just because I was getting too personal with her stuff.

2.do you think there might be another 4th wife sometime in the future?

I don't think so at least right now. It will be a long time before we have the money saved up that Shari got and things are really tight. And things are really good with all of us right now so why mess up a good thing?

3. how is Steve doing?

He's been okay. I won't say he is good because that isn't true but then he isn't all messed up that any of us can see. Part of it is he has been having to focus on work and I think that helps.

4.how are the Shari's daugthers handling the divorce?

Okay to not-okay. They feel abandoned and as much as the three of us try to love them we are not a substitute for their mom. To be honest I feel a little abandoned too because I would not have done this without Shari here to be kind of a mom to me too.

5.how are your twins doing :)

Patty is doing awesome and Laura is doing good but she is fussy sometimes and has been sick a little. I think they'll be fine but it is really clear that they are already very different little people. Laura is trying to make words and is ahead of Patty that way but Patty is much more physical and is crawling and Laura just wants to be on her belly all the time. I do know I love them so much and that they are everything I wanted to have in my children!

6.have everyone stopped wearing the dresses now that Shari is gone?

We wear dresses to church on Sunday but anymore around the house we don't. I will wear a dress in the yard sometimes to stay out of the sun but in the house I like t-shirts and shorts and pajamas.

7.what kind of schedule do the you all the wives have with Steve?

A schedule didn't really work out and right now with Macy and Christie both pregnant he spends a lot of time with me for some things but then he has to be with Christie for business and he likes to talk to Macy a lot. Christie says between us we make a really awesome wife! I think that's true and we're just letting things happen and not trying to force anything to happen. So far that is working but we can always do something different if we need to.

I'll try and think of more later, I'll try not to get to personal though.

Ask anything you want and if it is too personal I will say so but won't get all offended okay? (-:

Friday, August 20, 2010

20 Questions

I just haven't had it in my head to write much lately so I will take questions. Here's the deal: people who are not anonymous all get to ask 20 questions and I will answer them all. Anonymous people I will answer your questions if you're not being mean. It might be a while before I get on here again so be patient with me! Thanks!

Saturday, August 14, 2010

"Sister Wives" on TLC

The Learning Channel has a new TV show called "Sister Wives" that they are putting on this fall. I think this might have been the same thing they wanted my family to do. I posted that email on here I'm pretty sure.
We had my friend Carlee and her new family at the house yesterday and that TV show was a big subject. We all agree that the family on the show is asking for trouble because they have kids and the social workers won't be able to stop themselves from raiding the place like they did with the Mormons in Texas. I can't imagine putting my family at risk to go on TV but at the same time I hope the message gets out that poly is just another way to live and love but with a lot more laundry!

Steve and Christie are going to get legally married soon before the baby comes, like next week. They are just going to go to town and do it because they are already married in the church so there won't be a big deal with the church but we will still have a little party at home for them. We all talked about it and Steve and Christie were sooooo cool about it! It was really sweet that they wanted to make sure Macy and me felt okay about it but we already said it should be Christie to be the one married to Steve. It really is okay with us our big thing is we just want someone married to him just in case we need someone to be married to him like if he is in the hospital or something.

The one thing I saw on TV with this Sister Wives show was a interview where the new wife said she fell in love with the family first and then fell in love with the husband. Wow! That was exactly what I said too! It's nice to know someone else has the same kind of feelings and that makes me feel not as weird as I feel sometimes.

I had to look and see if we get TLC and we do so I will be watching that show when it is on if I have time. I watched four episodes of Big Love and stopped watching because it was just a crazy soap opera and the poly thing was so unreal in it.

The chickens are doing really well. We had another bunch of coyotes around their coop and this time Steve got three of them. The thing was the chickens were all freaked out and some of them lost a lot of feathers flying around and all. They will be okay but I don't like them being freaked out. Another thing that came up was the local butcher asked me this week when I wanted to start selling my layers for cooking and I guess I have to think about that. When they stop laying it will be time for them to move on but I have a couple special ones I will keep no matter what. For now they should keep laying for another year or so and I will worry about that then.

Someone asked about heating the chickens coop in the winter and Steve's plan is to just tow their trailer into the barn and let them stay in there. The coop gets pretty warm on its own with all the chickens in it and if it is out of the weather they should be okay. And then the barn has a heater that won't let it drop below 40 so that will be all taken care of. We're supposed to get really cold weather so I am worried about that but then I am also excited because this will be my first time living in snow and I hope it will be fun.

That is all I have time for and I have to go. Have a Happy Weekend!

Monday, August 9, 2010

Chef Megan

I'm a chef! Yay! It is so cool to have something finished and to have something that can help me earn some money if we need it. You're not really a professional until you get paid to do something but it still feels really cool to finish this and to be more than I used to be.

Steve and Shari's divorce is final now and I will hear more about it today or tomorrow but the thing is that it is over and it is not like some drama that will keep going forever. I got a few emails asking how it went so fast and it is because the church makes people do legal things that protect everyone when a divorce happens and it goes fast with no arguments over anything because it is all agreed to when you get married. Steve and Christie will be getting legally married maybe in September or October and that is the right thing for everyone. Shari is in Portland and just wants a lot of time to herself so Lauren and Hannah are staying with us.

My Patty and my Laura are doing really well. They are on the bottle and soft food now and that made my trip and my life a little easier. Breastfeeding is great and all but you leak and that is a pain and then you can be sore sometimes and then I can't get a lot of sleep. Now I am sleeping and the babies sleep all night now but I still check them when I go to bed. It was sooooooooooooooo hard to be away from them this last week! It's like I went to California and left my heart here. They are doing well in weight but Patty is about a pound bigger than Laura and is more active. Laura is a doll and does not fuss or cry much unless she is wet but then Patty is the happy one who loves to smile all the time. I love them so much.

The chickens are doing good. We have a nice fenced area for them and they have their trailer for the coop still. We put a net over their fenced area because we had hawks coming around a lot. Christie shot a coyote on Tuesday that was out around the chicken pen looking at the chickens and scaring them. We hear coyotes at night but this was the first one anyone saw in the day and it must have been really hungry or maybe sick. Christie thinks it was sick and had Lauren put it on our brush pile and burned it just in case.

I have not checked email or anything but wanted to get this done first. Happy Monday!