I'm up late with Emmy so I am checking my blog and Erica had two questions:
What about if you get pregnant? Will you still go to school?
For question #1 I hope so! And for question #2 I would go to school if I were pregnant just like anyone else would.
ChristianFundyMom said somethings about birth control being a big deal in poly families and it is! I can see how some people see it as a control thing but that is only if they want to be able to have sex and not have babies or if they are not sure of their husband or boyfriend being there for them. After talking to people in the church it was pointed out to me that an awful lot of women who get angry about birth control and abortion are lesbians who really just have problems with men. The first time someone said this to me I was like OMG! I can't believe they said that! And then after they took the time to point out all the lesbians who have been in the women's rights movement that pushed for abortion and birth control I had to agree that it was just plain true.
Religious poly families (Christian, Mormon, Muslim, pagan) all seem to not want birth control for about the same reasons and I wrote about those before but mostly it makes sex something kind of cheap and easy and then the sex loses something. Christie told me some of her life before she met Steve and Shari and she said that the sex she used to have was cold because it was safe sex and the couple times she did it unsafe were the best for her.
I didn't get her thing with getting pregnant until a few weeks ago when I was with Steve one night and he asked me how it felt to know I might be getting pregnant with his baby. It really felt so special to be with him knowing he wanted to be there for me and that he loved me so much he wanted a baby with me. I don't think a woman can feel closer to a man than when she is with him and making a baby with him. It really is making love because your love makes a baby to love and who can love you back.
I know there are a lot of reasons why not to want birth control but I think this is the best one is that you miss this amazing feeling of love with each other when it is just about having an orgasm.